Weddings are expensive..... No doubt. If you need to cut back in certain areas please adhere to this advise.... There are 3 main vendors that you don't want to go too cheap with.....
1. DJ / Emcee
3. Wedding Planner
The DJ sets the tone for the entire day - so if your DJ sucks - well... ultimately - the night is ruined..... a DJ/ Emcee must be upbeat, they must know how to entertain the crowd and keep them on the dance floor. They should know how to dress well and speak well- this is key. If you need to cut back, please consider another area because most times - You get what you pay for.
Photographer- Well this is pretty simple- you only have one wedding day and the pictures are priceless. I would highly recommend that you have a professional handle your wedding day pictures so every important moment is captured.
Wedding Planner- Priceless investment..... Planning a wedding is a full time job (literally), if you are a bride working full time and trying to plan a wedding part time - chances are you are overwhelmed. A wedding planner's job is to ease your worries. See a professional wedding planner knows the timeline and order in which things should be done..... early planning eliminates stress. With a planner you can be assured that the vendors that are going to recommended have been tried and tested and truly live up to their "Preferred Vendor" name. This means you will only get the "Best". On your wedding day, to just be the bride.. and be beautiful and to watch your guest have an amazing time and to have everything run smooth is so worth it.
Of course there are other things that are very important, but the 3 above are crutial.....
Here's what bothers me..... Wedding venues giving wedding designer/ wedding planners only 2 hours to set up for a 200 person wedding, and then turn around and give 1 hour for clean up.... please someone help me to understand why????
Here are a list of typical things that need to be taken care of within the 2 hours:
set up wedding arch
set up aisle runner
programs on each chair
possible spandex cover on each chair
Chair layout perfected
mark the sides of the wedding aisle with petals
Ensure cocktail tables are laid out (exactly as couple has requested)
Put linen and or spandex on the cocktail tables
Put decor on cocktail table
arrange place cards on table (this can be alphabetically organized prior to)
Put linen on the tables
Possibly put spandex on the chairs
Add chair sash & table runner
Add Charger Plate (normally not provided by venue)
Place favors on tables
Arrange gift Table
Arrange & Decorate Cake Table
Decorate Sweetheart Table
Decorate Bridal Party Table (if applicable)
On top of the above all the vendors will be arriving at the same time (DJ & Emcee, Photographer, Videographer, Photo Booth, Lighting, Caterer etc.....)
Venues: Please consider the amount of things that need to be accomplished and be a little bit more accommodating - It's stressing to everyone (especially the planner) with only 2 hours to build Rome.....
I'm trusting that those venues would read this and talk to the ones in authority to help them understand how crazy the whole process is..... and it really doesn't have to be that way....
VENT OVER..... until the next wedding that I'm given only 2 hours :>
Thanks for listening.
Everyone has a past... however, some aspects of the past should not be brought into your future relationship.
1. Past flings, trash talking individuals, people who tried to get with you etc.... should not be on your phone or social media..... CLEAR IT OUT before walking down the wedding aisle. If you are already in a relationship/ marriage and have not done this - It's not too late. This step is so important to a healthy relationship.
When you have people that you have been intimate with on your page, it means you have not let go - this can lead to insecurity, mistrust and so on.....
When you say I do..... it means out with the old and in with the new..... old distractions do not need to go forward in your relationship. You want to move forward in truth and in love with no hindrances.....
Now get this, cutting people out of your life doesn't mean that you hate that person, it simply means that you respect yourself and your spouse & relationship MORE. Not everyone is meant to stay.
As a wedding officiant, a married woman and a new premarital counselor - Here is some advise from the heart....
There needs to be clear understanding of expectations of roles and functions prior to marriage. This is something that does not need to be figured out during the course of your marriage. Take a look at each other individually and as as a couple - talk about goals - for each other, for the home, career etc......
Most basic husband/wife, mother/father roles and expectations were learnt from family of origin. Discussions and negotiations around these expectations are very important to the relationship. After all it's not your parents relationship that you will be living out.
Here are some questions to get you thinking:
What do you see as your role? Your spouses's role?
What does your spouse expect of you? Where do you Agree? Disagree?
How will you go about negotiating your differences?
Any nonnegotiables ?
How might your expectations be based on what you saw in your family?
Are these models of husband & wife roles ok with your fiance?
What husband & wife behaviors did you observe while growing up?
Any concerns about what you observed?
How di you see these concerns affecting your relationship?
Which would you like to repeat? or not repeat?
I recently married a couple 22 years old. They were very mature and knew that they wanted to spend their lives with each other. Their peers said, WAIT. Their family said, WAIT. But they were of age and decided to get married anyway.
What I love about this couple is that no outside talk could persuade them to change their minds…. They knew that age had nothing to do with it – They loved each other and were not going to wait until age 30 (as society has recommended).
Here’s some advice:
Don’t marry because you are pregnant, to get out of the house, for happiness, for money….. these are all Terrible reasons, that will ultimately end up in DIVORCE. If you are not happy with or by yourself – Trust me – no one else can fill that void.
The decision that you are making is a lifelong commitment. This is a decision that will affect the rest of your life (literally). Be sure – Be really sure before you embark. And although you are an adult – in most cases your parents only want what’s best for you. They have been around for many years and may offer you a prospective that you never even considered.
Marry only for the right reasons (LOVE, FRIENDSHIP, COMMITMENT, LOYALTY & TRUST) and know the difference between infatuation and true love.
Most Couples dread the rain on their wedding day - Dripping Makeup, Flat Hair, Soggy Shoes are just a few thoughts that come to mind, in addition to ruined pictures however, for Tony & Virigina - just the opposite happened.
Just as the couple were reciting their vows, the skies opened up and torrential rain came down on us. Most couples and guest alike would have been frantic and running for shelter.... but this crowd was different - No one ran, and although everyone was drenched - I believe every guest in attendance can say this was by far "one of the best wedding experiences to date" - (Wet and all)!
For once, no one cared about the frivilous things like their dress, decor, make up etc..... the only thing that mattered was LOVE and it was felt by everyone in attendance - The pictures came out AMAZING.... fun & laughter were seen in the photographs (nothing staged).
Most of the guest decided to go swimming in the pool and those who didn't danced the night away, inspite of the wet clothes.
Tony & Virginia - Thanks so much for being good sports - everyone will be talking about your wedding for years to come.
Not getting along with the In Laws? Fact is this occurs more often than not. It’s unfortunate but sometimes, when parents are so used to having their child to themselves – and now find themselves in “second place” tension occurs. These issues can cause a strain on your relationship. Here’s what I recommend.
A wedding sand ceremony (aka unity ceremony) is a very simple idea that can be incredibly powerful.
The wedding sand ceremony represents the coming together of two individuals as one. Each individual will have in hand a vase with different colored sand and will take turns pouring the sand into the center clear container, forming beautiful layers that can never again be separated and put back into the individual vases - The same is with Marriage; once you cross the threshold of single to married, it's no longer I but rather Us.
If the couple have children, they too can be join with their vase of colored sand which will represent the blending/uniting of families.
The sand ceremony has gained popularity because the container of sand can be kept as a monument forever unlike the unity candle which at some point the flame must go out.
Here is a sample Script for a Sand Ceremony
Wedding Officiant says:
“__________________ and _________________, today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you’ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.”
Leonard & Dominique Celebrate Love.
It was a beautiful day for a Fort Lauderdale Beach Wedding. Congratulations to Leonard & Dominique on their journey together. The couple were supported by close friends and family. Experience Love Events was honored to be your Fort Lauderdale wedding officiant.
If you are needing help with your wedding day in the Fort Lauderdale area, contact us for information. We would be more than happy to assist with your wedding day plans. If you are in need of decorations or wedding planning services then we can help as well.